As someone who was always honest completely about my status when I WAS separated, and burned badly by those I dated unknowingly who LIED about it, bandito surely is an exception.
He has become a friend and someone I always admired.
Now if they have children you do have to factor in the equation that there will always be that tie with their ex partner and theres not a lot you can do about that and in fact needs to be respected.
But apart from that they should be emotionally and financially apart.
My divorce if everything goes well may be finalised mid next year.i know this fact will make a lot of single women pass me over but my conscience is clear I am truth ful about it in my profile and to ladies I sometimes meet who show interest in me.
When I was actively dating I did not mail any ladies who were clearly looking for husband material....I figured i'd be safer mailing ladies who had the same seperated status as me.
Being seperated is no different than a person leaving a LTR but never married..issues..risks.
So far I have been smart and just refused to admit that I am dating at all.
But I do understand what you are asking I think the biggest concern you or anyone would have is- is their previous relationship truly over before you think about getting emotionally involved with.
He doesnt respond to her for any other little emergency such as blocked sink, leaking taps .
If he is still doing home/garden maintenance for her on a regular basis...outta there.
I am seperated for more than a year..physical contact for the last year, I live alone .kids are with her ...
Its over between us neither she nor me have a wish to reconcile.