It gave me a real complex and induced a crippling shyness in me. I'm still really shy so I never let it go to my head or take it seriously. The flip side of your story is that nobody wants you.Now I get hit on all the time by guys and girls in the 20s. A few times I've had girls take pictures of me on their phones while just walking down the street. Yes, there must be something wrong with everybody else, not you.[quote]Either you pony up with the cash, or settle for some schlub with a daddy complex. I dated a younger guy who definitely felt that way.Maybe because he was sort of immature which made me feel even older.We talked about the age difference once and he said he thought it was hot.Either you pony up with the cash, or settle for some schlub with a daddy complex.Otherwise, date someone your own age (I know, God forbid).[quote]I am most definitely not looking to be a sugar daddy or any kind of daddy for that matter.[quote]...preferably one that isn't promoting a fetish, like silver daddy or bears, etc.?I am 45, not quite elder-gay but definitely middle-aged (in the truest sense, since I expect to live to be 90, at least). I am most definitely not looking to be a sugar daddy or any kind of daddy for that matter. Are there any dating websites geared toward this demographic, preferably one that isn't promoting a fetish, like silver daddy or bears, etc.?Doll, in gay years you're not just an eldergay you're pretty much in God's waiting room.
I can't imagine how a site geared toward the old/young combo would attract anyone other than pervs and golddiggers.
OP, why not try your luck on a "normal" dating site and include your preference in your profile?
No, R16, but I think some examination about 'not into guys my own age' is warranted.
The problem, though, is that such guys are often shy - practically homebodies - so they're hard to find.
In my opinion, what's attractive in a guy in his 40s or older is that he's more likely to have his shit together, personally and professionally.